LGBTQ Family Formation and Protection
The Law Center has a strong history of advocating for LGBTQ families and their children in Wisconsin, at the trial and appellate court levels. We have been doing it for nearly 20 years.
Love and family are everything. We can help you protect both.
- Assisted Reproduction
- Child Custody, Placement, and Support
- Child in Need of Protection and/or Services (CHIPS)
- Collaborative Divorce
- Divorce and Dissolution
- Foster Parent Rights
- Grandparent Rights
- International Adoption
- International Family Law
- International Surrogacy
- LGBTQ Family Formation and Protection
- LGBTQ Family Law
- Marital Property and Cohabitation Agreements
- Parent Coordination
- School Law
- Transgender Law
Wisconsin LGBTQ Family Law Attorneys
One of our attorneys, Emily Dudak Leiter, was the lead attorney in a 2014 appeal in Wisconsin about applying the marital presumption of parentage to married same-sex couples post-marriage equality. She also co-authored the LGBTQ family formation and protection chapter of the Wisconsin State Bar book entitled “Advising the Evolving Family,” formerly “Sexual Orientation and the Law.”
The Four Cases to Know
As an LGBTQ parent, there are four cases you should know about, in order to understand your rights in Wisconsin and throughout the United States.
Wolf v. Walker is the federal appellate decision that brought marriage equality to Wisconsin on the beautiful summer evening of Friday, June 6, 2014. The lawsuit was filed and litigated by the ACLU. The decision, and therefore marriage equality in Wisconsin, became final on October 6, 2014.
Less than one year later, on June 26, 2015, the U.S. Supreme Court announced its decision in Obergefell v. Hodges and brought marriage equality to the entire United States. This case was litigated by GLAD and other non-profits. The decision was final and binding throughout the United States the day it was issued.
Together, these two marriage equality cases required the following:
- Same-sex couples must be allowed to marry in Wisconsin and every other state.
- Out-of-state marriages must be recognized in Wisconsin and every other state.
- The rights/benefits and responsibilities of marriage must be applied equally to same- and different-sex couples.
- All of this must happen right now, not later after additional policy debate, litigation, or legislation.
While #1 and #2 above were implemented somewhat smoothly across the country, Wisconsin and a few other states refused to fully implement and abide by #3 and #4 above. They did not seem to understand that being allowed to marry means nothing, if you do not also receive the rights and responsibilities of marriage. Lawsuits followed, including the following two.
Torres v. Seemeyer is the federal district court decision from 2016 that requires the State of Wisconsin and all of its agencies to ungender and apply Wisconsin’s artificial insemination statute equally to same- and different-sex couples. The Court ordered Wisconsin Vital Records to issue two-parent birth certificates for children born to married same-sex couples, if the couples comply with the artificial insemination statute. The lawsuit was filed as a federal class action by Lambda Legal in 2015, after Vital Records refused to issue correct birth certificates under Wolf and Obergefell.
Pavan v. Smith is the U.S. Supreme Court decision issued in 2017, that held Arkansas’ marital presumption of paternity and artificial insemination statutes must be applied equally to same-sex and different-sex married couples. The Court in an unusually short (five-page) decision, and without oral argument or the regular briefing schedule, summarily reversed the Arkansas Supreme Court. The Arkansas Supreme Court had allowed Arkansas Vital Records to refuse to apply the marital presumption of paternity and artificial insemination statutes to married same-sex couples and to refuse them two-parent birth certificates. The U.S. Supreme Court said that it already decided this issue in Obergefell. It said, citing its own Obergefell decision, that the Constitution entitles same-sex couples to civil marriage “on the same terms and conditions as opposite-sex couples,” including “the constellation of benefits that the States have linked to marriage.” A bit exasperated, the U.S. Supreme Court said: in Obergefell we even “expressly identified ‘birth and death certificates.’ That was no accident: several of the plaintiffs in Obergefell challenged a State’s refusal to recognize their same-sex spouses on their children’s birth certificates.” The U.S. Supreme Court closed the door on this issue in Pavan and brought parentage equality to the entire country.
These four cases have dramatically changed Wisconsin law as applied to married same-sex couples. Below is a summary of the protections now available to same-sex couples and their children in Wisconsin.
Do We Still Need a Court Order Regarding Our Parental Rights?
Yes, you still need a court order regarding your parental rights and the rights of your child to their two parents (via parentage or adoption, discussed below), even if you are married and even if you are both on the birth certificate (as “Mother/Father” or as “Parent/Parent”). The reason is a concept called “portability of judgment.”
Your family needs to be able to travel outside of Wisconsin and know that your joint legal parentage will be respected and recognized. You cannot have that assurance with just a birth certificate. A birth certificate is a self-reported record, is only indicia of parentage not proof, and is not entitled to Full Faith and Credit under the U.S. Constitution. You need a court order to receive Full Faith and Credit.
The legal consensus on this issue is wide. See National Center for Lesbian Rights, Legal Recognition of LGBT Families, available here (advising that “[r]egardless of whether you are married or in a civil union or comprehensive domestic partnership, NCLR always encourages non-biological and non-adoptive parents to get an adoption or parentage judgment, even if you are named on your child’s birth certificate”); National Center for Lesbian Rights, Protecting Your Family After Marriage Equality, available here (advising that “[a]ll non-biological parents still need an adoption or parentage judgment from a court recognizing that they are a legal parent, even if you are married and even if you are listed as a parent on the birth certificate. Being on the birth certificate does not necessarily make you a parent under the law”); Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD), Marriage Tips and Traps, available here (advising married same-sex couples in Massachusetts that the presumptions of parentage will apply to children born during the course of the marriage but that couples should still “go through the legal process of [obtaining a court order for] any child born during the marriage”); Lambda Legal, Civil Unions for Same-Sex Couples in New Jersey, available here (advising that, even if both civil union spouses are presumed to be legal parents under state law, that “it is vital that [the couple] consult an attorney and pursue securing your child’s legal status with both parents through a [court order]”).
We feel even more strongly about this recommendation since the U.S. Supreme Court decided the same-sex adoption case of V.L. v. E.L. in 2016. The issue presented in that case was whether Alabama had to recognize a Georgia adoption by a non-biological parent in a lesbian artificial insemination case. The Court answered yes, that Full Faith and Credit applies to the adoption, and that the adoption and resulting equal parental rights must be recognized by Alabama, even if the state disagrees that same-sex couples should be allowed to be equal legal parents and even if the adoption order is inconsistent with the public policies of the state. The short and sweet and unanimous decision in V.L. v. E.L. speaks to the strength of this holding.
We also recommend obtaining a court order not just for geographic portability, but also for portability in time. If a couple rests on a birth certificate alone, and the legislature changes the law of parentage in the future, ambiguity would result. Only a court order will freeze time and clearly survive changes in the law.
In addition, if the non-biological parent’s rights are ever challenged in court (by the biological parent, by family members, by heirs, or by a third-party providers of services or benefits like a health insurance company or pension administrator), a court order will provide much stronger protection than just a birth certificate, contract, and/or pattern of conduct.
The remainder of this content goes through the different ways to secure and protect the rights of your child to their two legal parents.
The marital presumption of paternity/parentage is a statute that says a husband is the legal parent of a child born to his wife during their marriage, automatically by operation of law at the child’s birth. Wis. Stat. § 891.41(1)(a) provides the following:
Presumption of paternity based on marriage of the parties. (1) A man is presumed to be the natural father of a child if any of the following applies: (a) He and the child’s natural mother are or have been married to each other and the child is conceived or born after marriage and before the granting of a decree of legal separation, annulment or divorce between the parties.
This is how a husband becomes a legal parent and appears on the birth certificate by simply signing a form at the hospital. Nearly every state has such a statute. Wisconsin’s version of this statute also has a subsequent intermarriage provision, meaning that if a couple has a child during their non-marital relationship and then they subsequently intermarry, the husband is presumed to be the child’s legal parent as if the child was born during the marriage. Wis. Stat. § 891.41(1)(b) provides the following:
Presumption of paternity based on marriage of the parties. (1) A man is presumed to be the natural father of a child if any of the following applies: (b) He and the child’s natural mother were married to each other after the child was born but he and the child’s natural mother had a relationship with one another during the period of time within which the child was conceived and no other man has been adjudicated to be the father or presumed to be the father of the child under par. (a).
As mentioned above, there is also a statute in Wisconsin that says a husband is the legal parent of a child conceived by his wife during the marriage, if the child is conceived with donor sperm via physician-supervised artificial insemination and the husband consents in writing to the insemination. Many states have some version of this statute, too. Wis. Stat. § 891.40 provides the following:
Artificial insemination. (1) If, under the supervision of a licensed physician and with the consent of her husband, a wife is inseminated artificially with semen donated by a man not her husband, the husband of the mother at the time of the conception of the child shall be the natural father of a child conceived. The husband’s consent must be in writing and signed by him and his wife. The physician shall certify their signatures and the date of the insemination, and shall file the husband’s consent with the department of health and family services, where it shall be kept confidential and in a sealed file except as provided in s. 46.03(7)(bm). However, the physician’s failure to file the consent form does not affect the legal status of father and child. All papers and records pertaining to the insemination, whether part of the permanent record of a court or of a file held by the supervising physician or elsewhere, may be inspected only upon an order of the court for good cause shown.
(2) The donor of semen provided to a licensed physician for the use of artificial insemination of a woman other than the donor’s wife is not the natural father of a child conceived, bears no liability for the support of the child and has no parental rights with regard to the child.
It has been our firm’s position since Wolf in 2014, that these statutes must be ungendered and applied equally to married same-sex couples, just like other benefits of marriage such as filing joint income tax returns. The courts in Torres and Pavan have made clear that this interpretation is correct and is required by marriage equality.
Through one or both of these statutes, the non-biological parent should be declared in a court order – or really, confirmed – to be the legal parent of their spouse’s biological child. Since Wolf in 2014, our firm has fought hard to obtain such court orders throughout Wisconsin. In addition, Wisconsin Vital Records has been respecting our parentage orders and promptly revising the birth certificates to list both parents as “Parent/Parent,” instead of “Mother/Father.”
Parentage is not a step-parent adoption, although it achieves the same end: equal legal parentage cemented in a court order. Faced with the reality that they must secure a court order as recommended, many couples prefer this option to a step-parent adoption, because (1) the non-biological parent is not a “step-parent,” and (2) parentage does not require the involvement of an adoption agency or the invasion of privacy of a home study/step-parent screening.
After Torres and Pavan, it is clear that a married same-sex couple who complies with the artificial insemination statute is entitled to a parentage order and a two-parent birth certificate. The non-biological parent should be confirmed to be a parent in the order, and the sperm donor should be confirmed to have no parental rights or responsibilities. The following is a checklist on how to comply with the artificial insemination statute:
1. The child must be conceived during the marriage;
2. The sperm donor can be known or anonymous. The statute does not require that it be anonymous donor sperm from a sperm bank;
3. The non-biological parent/spouse must consent in writing to the insemination;
4. The insemination must occur under the “supervision” of a physician, which does not necessarily mean the insemination must be performed by a physician; and
5. The physician must certify the date of the insemination, that the insemination took place under their supervision, and that the signatures of the spouses appear on the certification.
Step-parent adoption has been available to married same-sex couples in Wisconsin since the Wolf decision in 2014. Our firm has been finalizing such adoptions all over the state since the decision. For the most part, it is a smooth process across the state.
However, choosing to obtain a court order via step-parent adoption is a hard decision to make for couples who have conceived their child together. The non-biological parent is not a “step-parent.” They are not raising a child from a previous relationship. This is their child, from their marriage. Sometimes the non-biological parent is even on the birth certificate already as “Father.”
But so-called “step-parent” adoption is a means to an end. Some attorneys explain this by using the new(ish) term “confirmatory adoption,” meaning the adoption is simply confirming the rights the adopting parent should already have through the parentage laws described above. Some couples decide to endure the adoption process in order to get a traditional, well-recognized adoption order, versus a parentage order which is a newer concept. Or, couples decide on step-parent adoption because they live in a problematic county. Step-parent adoption is definitely the path of least resistance.
What exactly is step-parent adoption? Step-parent adoption is the adoption of a child by the spouse of the legal parent. The legal parent’s rights are not terminated during this type of adoption. Instead, the “step-parent” comes onto the rights of the legal parent and the couple begins to share parental rights of the child. A couple must be married to complete a step-parent adoption. A step-parent screening is required in Wisconsin before a step-parent adoption can be finalized. The screening is completed by an adoption agency and involves completing questionnaires, background checks, a medical exam, and a home visit. It is not a full home study, but it is not insignificant. A screening should not be required in a parentage matter, on the other hand (and in our firm’s experience, it is not). Without any problems, birth certificates are being revised by Wisconsin Vital Records to list both parents pursuant to step-parent adoption orders (as “Parent/Parent”).
Second-parent adoption is a step-parent adoption for a couple who is not married. This type of adoption is not yet available in Wisconsin and will require a change in the law. Right now, in Wisconsin, to adopt your partner’s biological or adoptive child, you must be married. The same is true for different-sex couples.
Joint adoption of a child by a same-sex couple has also been possible in Wisconsin since Wolf. This type of adoption is different from a step-parent adoption. A joint adoption refers to a couple adopting a child together from foster care or in a private adoption agency placement. Both parents adopt at the same time, from the outset. Wisconsin Vital Records has been recognizing these types of adoption orders and revising birth certificates appropriately, to list both adoptive parents thereon as “Parent/Parent.”
This is a common strategy for gay male couples adopting through a private agency, and any couple adopting from foster care. Same-sex couples, if married, should no longer be made to “choose” which one of them will adopt their child from an agency or foster care.
Guardianship remains an option to protect an LGBTQ family in Wisconsin, although its appropriateness is questionable now that equal legal parentage can be achieved. A guardianship is a court order that establishes a legal relationship between a child and an adult, and may be used to give a non-legal parent the right to make day-to-day decisions about the child. A guardian can make educational and medical decisions for the child, and often, depending on the terms of the policy, can enroll the child on the guardian’s health insurance plan. A guardianship does not, however, make the guardian a legal parent, and it can be terminated by the legal parent at any time so long as the legal parent is fit.
A guardianship can be useful for a couple that, for some reason, cannot marry. Marriage is not required for a guardianship. However, it is inferior to parentage or adoption. It should be used sparingly these days in this area of law.
Co-Parenting and Co-Maternity Agreements
For many years, a Co-Parenting Agreement was the foundation of an LGBTQ-specific life and estate plan involving children. It is a contract between the parents that states their intentions and commitment to co-parent, stipulates to fact (e.g., “we conceived the child together”), outlines their plan regarding parentage, custody, placement, and support of the child, and often binds the parties to alternative dispute resolution within a set of standards devised by GLAD and NCLR. The contract is useful in parentage, adoption, and guardianship proceedings as an exhibit, as well as upon dissolution of the relationship, death, or incapacity. It is also referenced throughout the couple’s life and estate plan to strengthen provisions such as nominations of guardian.
Ideally, these agreements are signed prior to the child’s conception or birth, but they can also be signed after the birth. Co-Parenting Agreements are particularly important in co-maternity pregnancies (one’s egg, the other’s uterus). They can also act as a safety net, in the event a parentage or adoption order is not being recognized and respected.
Except in co-maternity cases or cases in which the couple is not married, the necessity of a Co-Parenting Agreement is diminishing, as marriage and parentage equality gain momentum and become a new norm.
Sperm Donation Agreement
A state-specific Sperm Donation Agreement is essential for couples who use known sperm donors to build their families. This is a contract between the sperm donor and the intended parents that makes clear that the intended parents, not the donor, will have exclusive rights to and responsibilities for the child. This contract also provides protections for the donor, for example by releasing him from liability for child support and waiving claims by the child against his estate at his death. This contract should be in place before the sperm is exchanged, much less used. In addition, when a known sperm donor is used, it is recommended that any parental rights he may have be terminated as part of any parentage or adoption proceeding. And it is strongly recommended that the couple offer to pay for an attorney for the sperm donor during the contract negotiations and any court proceedings.
In this way, using a known sperm donor adds two steps to the above-described court proceedings: (1) getting a Sperm Donation Agreement in place; and (2) filing a petition to terminate any parental rights the sperm donor may have. Unless a couple has a strong reason for wanting to use known donor sperm (e.g., it is a close friend or brother), they should consider using anonymous donor sperm from a sperm bank. It is a myth that using known donor sperm will save money. The money you do not pay to a sperm bank will likely go to a lawyer instead for a Sperm Donation Agreement and a termination of parental rights proceeding.
In all cases involving known donor sperm, it is imperative that the couple comply with Wisconsin’s artificial insemination statute discussed above. Otherwise, the case could be viewed as a paternity case in the future. Most importantly, the couple should be sure to perform the insemination under the supervision of a physician. Many physicians and clinics are willing to work with fresh, known donor sperm. Our firm can provide referrals upon request.
Other ART Contracts
When an individual or couple decides to use donated genetic material other than sperm (for example, donated eggs or embryos) or decides to build their family through surrogacy, professionally drafted, state-specific contracts are a must. It is now a best practice for both sides of these contracts to be represented by independent attorneys. In fact, some fertility clinics and attorneys even require such representation. Our firm has drafted hundreds of such contracts. Two of our attorney are fellows in the Academy of Adoption and Assisted Reproduction Attorneys (“AAAA”), the leading organization in this area of law, and are involved in its leadership and development of its ethical rules and best practices.
Life and Estate Planning
Life and estate planning is recommended for every family and every individual, even if you do not have children or many assets. Life planning documents address illness and incapacitation. Estate planning documents address death and assets. All of these documents protect you, your partner or spouse, your children, and your family as a unit. If you fail to make these decisions, the legal system will make them for you. A typical life and estate plan for our families includes: a Will, a Minor Support Trust, various deeds, beneficiary designation forms, a Nomination of Guardian for Minor Child, a Parental Power of Attorney, Powers of Attorney for Health Care and Finances, a Living Will, health care facility visitation authorizations, HIPAA releases, and if necessary, a Revocable Living Trust. There are also marriage-based tax planning devices available to same-sex couples after Wolf and Obergefell. Our firm helps couples navigate these new benefits of marriage within their estate plan, and can even help prepare your tax returns and amend past returns if advisable.
Over the years, our firm has developed LGBTQ-specific versions of these documents that are recommended even post-marriage and parentage equality. Redundancy and safety nets are key, as is properly coordinating the documents with whatever court order or contracts a family may choose to do with regard to their child.
Evaluating Your Options
Deciding how to proceed involves evaluating a variety of factors, including your family’s needs and wishes, your county of residence, and the state of the law. The first step towards making a plan is to meet with an attorney experienced in LGBTQ law. We practice statewide and offer a flat fee initial consultation unlimited in time to explain these legal options in more detail and to help you develop an individualized strategy to protect your family.